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Jul 19
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Why Pretending You're Not Vulnerable Mak...

Lewis Howes
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"It's actually our inability to be vulnerable that makes us weak." - BRENÉ BROWN

Brené Brown completely flips everything we've been taught about strength and vulnerability on its head. She reveals how our society's obsession with avoiding pain - whether through medication, alcohol, blame, or just pretending we're fine - has created the most medicated, addicted, and emotionally fragile generation in history. Through a brilliant football analogy about injured quarterbacks, she shows why the teams that acknowledge their vulnerabilities and adapt their strategy always outperform those that pretend nothing's wrong. Her insights cut straight to the heart of why so many men struggle with anger, rage, and feeling completely lost when life hits them hard.

What makes this conversation so powerful is how Brené connects the dots between our personal struggles and what's happening in our country right now. She explains why the cheapest form of leadership is giving people someone to hate and blame, and how our collective inability to sit with discomfort is literally tearing us apart. Lewis opens up about his own journey of deliberately seeking pain and discomfort every day to build his emotional resilience, and together they explore why acknowledging your vulnerability isn't just brave - it's the only way to actually protect yourself when life inevitably gets tough.

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