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Jul 16
35m 45s

EP 504: Stop Being the Savior with Tiffa...

CHRISTINE HASSLER
About this episode

In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own.

Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion.

This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices?
  • Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom?
  • Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support?
  • What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose.
  • There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others.
  • You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love.
  • God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love.
  • When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.

How to Deepen the Work:

  • Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.”
  • Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion.
  • Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you.
  • Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity.
  • Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice.
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