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Jul 2025
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313. Confidence is a skill, not a trait

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You know when someone seems to breeze through life, can approach any social situation and challenge with such self-assured confidence? It seems innate - something they were born with. But what if that's not true? What if, instead of a fixed personal trait, confidence is actually a set of learnable abilities, a dynamic skill that anyone can cultivate, sharpen, and ultimately master? Today, we’re challenging the notion that confidence is a trait, and instead something you build.

Things we discuss:

  • Why confidence is dynamic and adaptable
  • Self-efficacy as a driver of confidence
  • How "growth mindsets" can revolutionise your approach to challenges and setbacks
  • Understanding the locus of control to fuel or hinder your forward momentum
  • Actionable strategies to build your confidence from the ground up

 

If you’ve ever thought, “if only I was just born confident”, this episode is for you.

 

Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 

 

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