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Mar 2023
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Toolkit for Building Unstoppable Confide...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of confidence.

This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built.

Confidence is not what you think it is.

It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts.

Confidence is a skill that anyone can master.

And today is the perfect day for you to start.

You and I are breaking down the science together, and you’re invited to join in as I coach several listeners who are struggling with self-doubt.

By the time this episode is done, you will not only have a brand new definition of confidence, but you will also know how to put that definition to use to start building unstoppable confidence in your own life.

Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it.

Let’s get that back.

If you are willing to get up every day and put one foot in front of the other, you, my friend, will not only be practicing and building confidence, but over time you’ll start feeling more confident too.

Xo Mel 

Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

  • 2:00: The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have.
  • 3:50: Honestly, here’s what happens when you have more confidence.
  • 6:00: This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment.
  • 8:30: This is what you and I were getting wrong about confidence. Until now.
  • 8:45: Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research.
  • 13:45: Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success.
  • 14:40: Did you happen to catch my 21-minute panic attack on TEDx?
  • 16:50: Neuroscience says it gets easier to feel confident when you do this.
  • 21:40: Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why.
  • 23:30: Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence.
  • 24:20: Here’s a surprising fact about confidence.
  • 25:55: Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest.
  • 27:00: Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3.
  • 28:10: I’ve loved this TED Talk for years. 
  • 29:00: Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of..
  • 31:25: Confidence does not come before action; THIS does.
  • 31:00: There are two types of people when it comes to action. Which are you?
  • 33:30: Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits.
  • 35:45: Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence.
  • 38:00: Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary.
  • 40:50: I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this.
  • 42:45: If you’re willing to feel this way, you’re guaranteed to keep growing.
  • 44:15: Do you like this person you’re spending your life with?
  • 46:00: Be careful who you give your number one commodity away to.
  • 49:30: Ultimately, here’s why you’re not feeling confident. Now change that.
  • 51:00: This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear.

 

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