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449: Summer Series - How to Have a Love ...

TONYA LEIGH
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The Most Important Relationship: Loving Yourself First

The most crucial relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. This relationship is foundational because you are with yourself every moment of every day. If this relationship is not nurtured and solid, it can lead to a life filled with unnecessary struggles and hardships.

Tonya Leigh reflects on the importance of self-love and the pivotal relationship we have with ourselves. Following the recent loss of her father, who embodied love and encouraged her to love others, Tonya shares her realization that she often withheld love from herself. She discusses the common tendency to place conditions on self-love, such as needing to lose weight or achieve perfection before feeling worthy of love. This episode revisits the themes of the earlier podcast "How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself," emphasizing that fostering a strong relationship with oneself is crucial for a fulfilling life.

Join Tonya as she encourages listeners to embrace unconditional self-love and nurture their most important relationship.

Talking Points:

00:53 - Loss of My Father


01:46 - Self-Love Journey: Early Realizations


04:41 - Alone Time: Getting to Know Yourself


06:10 - Standing by Yourself

07:27 - Oscar Wilde Quote: Lifelong Romance with Yourself

10:31 - Listening to Your Desires


17:34 - Speaking Lovingly to Yourself


00:20:23 - Filling Your Love Tank


00:22:11 - Treating Yourself Well

00:22:11 - Dressing Up for Yourself

00:28:00 - Emotional Scale: Attracting Love

00:29:17 - Staying in a State of Love

Quotes:

"I realized that the one person that I'm with every single day, I often withheld the most love from, and that was myself."

 "When you develop that kind of relationship with yourself, you really do become unstoppable."

"We have to be with ourselves for the rest of our lives, which is why it is the number one relationship for you to focus on cultivating."

"If you want to have a love affair with yourself, it's going to require that you listen to your desires of what you want."

"The most amazing gift that I can give the world is to love myself madly."

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