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Jul 2025
32m 15s

how to stop seeking external validation

cara and leo
About this episode

this week (in the final part of our external validation series), we continue to deep dive into a topic that’s come up again and again across our episodes : seeking external validation.

check out part 1 first, where we reflect on our own relationships with validation, how it’s shaped our childhoods, friendships, and identities. we also explore the psychology behind validation seeking.

in part 2, we get into the emotional cost of it all and actually share some tips into how to stop seeking it! 

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