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Jun 30
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0144 Female Led Relationships: What to D...

Krystine Kellogg
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Feeling stuck in a rut with your partner? You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t need to burn it all down to light a spark again.

This is one of those campfire-style chats, where I show up solo, pour some coffee, and talk about what happens when your relationship starts feeling… flat.

From missing the spark, to appreciating the little things, to being honest about when it’s time to plug back in (yes, that’s exactly what you think it means)—this one is real, raw, and might hit you right where you need it.

I dive into:

  • Why reconnecting doesn’t require kink (but it helps 😉)
  • The surprising power of gratitude in long-term FLR dynamics
  • When to take the cage off—and how that can actually bring you closer
  • How to tell the difference between a slump and a breaking point
  • What it means to “plug back in” emotionally and physically
  • And why it's okay to have hard talks and messy days in a deeply connected relationship

This isn’t about performing dominance. It’s about maintaining intimacy when life gets complicated—and that includes self-reflection, shitty weeks, and maybe crying over coffee.Timestamps (for the jumpers in the room):

  • 00:00 – Camper life updates & tattoo plans
  • 02:15 – Editing shoutouts, Canon camera chaos & OnlyFans behind-the-scenes
  • 06:40 – Feeling disconnected? Here's what “flat” can look like
  • 08:10 – A Healthline article sparks ideas on how to bring the spark back
  • 10:45 – Writing down what your partner does right
  • 14:20 – Gratitude in FLR: why saying thank you changes everything
  • 19:30 – Campground escapes, laughing rituals, and creative reconnection
  • 24:45 – When the cage comes off: intimacy as reconnection
  • 27:40 – How we talk through disconnection before it breaks us
  • 33:00 – “Is it worth it?” and knowing when to walk away
  • 37:00 – Final words: coffee, connection, and finding your fire again

 Key Quote from This Episode:

“The cage comes off when we need to plug back in. It’s not about control—it’s about connection.”


Mentioned in This Episode:

  • Healthline article: When You’re Just Not Feeling It
  • My new Canon camera setup
  • My editing partner/sub

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Keywords:
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