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Jun 23
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E382 | Why "How Can I Help?" Isn't Alway...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

“Is there anything I can do to help?”

It’s interesting and unique how we’ve all been asked this question by a spouse, friend, co-worker, or boss—but it never feels like that question leads to you getting actual help. It often feels like answering that question will cause you even more issues. 

But, people are asking it with good intentions, so how can we actually seize this moment and get some relief from the overload?

We’re always told as leaders that we need to delegate, delegate, delegate—so how can we respond to this request without adding to our overwhelm?

In today’s episode, Brett is going to give us all the answers—and much more—to this age-old question we all somewhat cringe when we hear.

Lean in as he covers:

  • The psychology and first principles behind why we often decline help—even when we need it
  • Cognitive overwhelm—how to reduce it, cut through the fog, and get the help you need
  • Practical strategies to truly show up for someone and show you care
  • Default requests you can use to get quick results based on their competence and ability
  • How to respond with honesty that eases the emotional friction you might feel

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