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Jun 13
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Bigoted Friend, Crossdressing, and Thera...

Kirk Honda
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Rebeccasode! Dr Kirk and Rebecca answer patron emails.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 Handling a bigoted friend
10:22 How can I support a crossdressing partner?
16:54 Has therapy speak become a disservice to our clients?
48:34 Is it okay to bring a stuffed animal to therapy? 
51:40 Vicarious trauma and burnout as a therapist
1:06:23 Is broaching always necessary? 

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June 13, 2025

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