EP 499: Break Patterns of Jealousy and ...

In this raw and revealing coaching session, Christine Hassler coaches Bridget, a woman navigating the painful territory of jealousy, comparison, and unmet desires. Bridget candidly opens up about her long-standing struggles with being single and childless—two areas that trigger deep feelings of not being “good enough” when she sees others with what she longs for. 

The coaching session explores not only the emotional roots of these feelings but also how deeply ingrained patterns from childhood can skew how we view ourselves in relation to others.

Christine guides Bridget to understand that jealousy isn’t a flaw—it’s a signal. A signal that we may be projecting our own unlived qualities onto others, which can be used for self-discovery and healing when viewed with compassion. Through tools like “positive projection” and reparenting, Christine helps Bridget shift her lens from lack and comparison to abundance and self-trust.

This episode is essential listening for anyone who finds themselves stuck in comparison loops, struggling with envy, or feeling left behind by life's timelines. If you've ever looked at someone else's life and thought, “They must know something I don’t,” this one is for you.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you often compare your life to others and feel like you're falling short?
• Do you feel left out or behind when it comes to relationships, family, or success?
• Is jealousy something you were taught—something modeled in your family of origin?
• Are you ready to reclaim your sense of self-worth and step into greater self-trust?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Jealousy can serve as a tool for growth when reframed as a positive projection.
• Often, the qualities we admire in others are ones we haven’t fully owned in ourselves.
• Chronic comparison stems from childhood imprints, often passed down from caregivers.
• Confidence in decision-making strengthens our relationship with ourselves and builds autonomy.
• You are not less than anyone else—there is no secret formula that others have and you don’t.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice positive projection: When you're jealous of someone, ask yourself, “What qualities am I seeing in them that I haven’t yet recognized in myself?”
• Build self-trust by making confident, embodied choices—even small ones. Flex your decision-making muscle.
• Reframe comparison as separation. Instead, use it to connect with the qualities you desire to cultivate in yourself.
• Visualize removing the “comparison glasses” and choosing to see through the lens of truth, where your worth is not tied to others’ outcomes.
• Work with a therapist or coach to reparent the younger parts of you that never got to fully develop autonomy or self-approval.

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Christine’s Signature Women’s Retreat

Christine is still honoring the early bird discount for her upcoming Women’s Retreat! This transformational experience is designed to help women heal the sister wound, release patterns of jealousy and competition, and experience deep, soul-level connection and support. You’ll leave with greater confidence, clarity, and connection—with yourself and with other women.
Visit christinehassler.com/retreat to register and learn more.

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