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Jun 3
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199. Creating Your Own "Cool Table" (How...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

In today's episode, Alissa shares the powerful story of a private client who transformed her self-worth and friendships by healing sisterhood wounds and learning to break free from overgiving tendencies. Alissa offers deeply relatable insights for HSPs who struggle to feel truly accepted in friendships—and gives you the exact mindset shift to start creating friendships that feel soul nourishing and aligned.

What you’ll learn:

  • How past relational wounds (especially with your mother) can affect your adult friendships
  • Why overgiving is a symptom of low self-worth—and how to shift out of it
  • The “do the opposite” method to rewire old relational patterns
  • What it really means to create your own “cool table” and attract aligned friends
  • How radical self-acceptance leads to magnetic friendships
  • Why healing self-worth is foundational for HSPs to thrive socially


Questions answered in this episode:

  • Why do I feel like I always give more than I receive in friendships?
  • What does it mean to have a sisterhood wound?
  • How do I stop people-pleasing in my relationships?
  • Can I build new, better friendships after outgrowing old ones?
  • What steps can I take to feel more confident and grounded socially?



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