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Jun 2025
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#272 How Overusing Therapy Terms Can Hur...

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In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You. We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a breakup. Dr. Morley and I discuss why we’re so quick to diagnose our exes, the emotional pay-off behind it, and how social media has amplified these trends in dating and relationships. We also explore how focusing on an ex’s pathology can keep us stuck, the real definitions behind words like “love bombing” and “gaslighting,” and how to safely navigate vulnerability and boundaries in new relationships. If you’re finding yourself lost in TikTok jargon or anxious about red flags, this episode will help you set the record straight and refocus your energy on real healing.


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