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May 30
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Stop Chasing Love! (How to Shift Your Mi...

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About this episode

How do you know when someone is truly right for you?

Have you ever confused attention for love?

In this special crossover episode, Jay Shetty steps out of his usual host role and joins media personality Tinx on her podcast, Office Hours, for a candid and profoundly enriching conversation. Jay opens up about his journey with meditation, relationships, and personal well-being. He breaks meditation down into simple, approachable practices like breathwork, visualization, and mantra, making it accessible to anyone who’s ever felt like they ‘can’t meditate.’

Jay and Tinx go deeper, unpacking the digital overwhelm of the constant pings, nonstop news, and the pressure of staying connected. Jay shares practical strategies for reclaiming your peace, especially in the crucial first moments of the day. From changing how we wake up to choosing when and how we consume news, he emphasizes building rituals that foster clarity rather than chaos. 

Jay explains the concept of love through the three key relationship types: the firework, the candle, and the mirror. He challenges the idea of “one soulmate,” suggesting instead that the people we attract reflect where we are in our own growth and emotional state. The conversation is filled with insight into how to find peace in your singlehood, develop a deeper understanding of yourself, and create a life that naturally attracts meaningful connection.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

How to Start Meditating When You Feel Stuck

How to Use Breathwork to Calm Anxiety Instantly

How to Build a Tech-Free Morning Routine

How to Consume News Without Feeling Overwhelmed

How to Create Real Human Connection in a Digital World

Remember, peace shouldn't be something you have to chase—it’s something you can create, right here, right now.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there!

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:48 Building Purpose Through the Calm Community

03:38 Struggling with Meditation? Start Here

08:26 Simple Breathing Practice to Calm Your Mind

11:05 Managing News and Notifications Without Losing Peace

18:16 Inside Jay’s Grounding Morning Routine

23:14 The Interview That Changed Jay’s Perspective

25:09 When Interviews Get Deep and Emotional

27:06 Must-Listen Episodes to Start With

29:48 Jay’s Ultimate Dream Guest Revealed

30:36 The Three Types of Love You’ll Experience

34:25 How Jay Met His Wife, Radhi

35:43 What to Look For When Searching for Love

44:37 The Root of Desperation in Dating

45:27 What to Expect from the On Purpose Live Tour

46:46 Preparing Mentally and Physically for Live Shows

48:55 Jay’s Favorite Guilty Pleasures 

Episode Resources:

Tinx | Podcast

Tinx | Instagram 

Tinx | TikTok 

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