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May 2025
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124. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Holding Yo...

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It’s the first ever edition of Hot Not Bothered Summer! In this series, Jess and Caroline answer listener’s burning questions about all things dating, and they start out with a bang. They discuss giving men the benefit of the doubt when you’re jaded, how to use dating apps in an intentional way, the best things to ask on a first date, and how to handle a situationship.

Plus, they dive a little deeper into the “hunt” of dating, what emotional baggage is/is not allowed to bring to new relationships, listening vs. talking, and above all, understanding that what you feel is the most important data. Let’s make this a summer of love, babies! Kisses!


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