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May 29
1h 14m

Ella & Makaburi - S5 | E1

Julia Gaitho
About this episode

She was the typical fresh-faced, doe-eyed high school graduate eager to embark on a new chapter after completing school.

 He was a man of God.

Right off the bat, Ella is enthusiastic to make herself fully useful in the church. She is swept up in the glow of youthful faith and the promise of a community that feels like home. But when Makaburi, the charismatic leader everyone reveres, draws her closer, the line between spiritual mentorship and something far more sinister begins to blur.

In this powerful and unflinching episode, Ella traces her journey through betrayal, silence, and a darkness she was taught to blame on herself. 

What happens when religious guidance crosses a dark line?

This week, Ella shares a story that’s not just shocking—it’s a wake-up call. A powerful, painful, and deeply necessary conversation on grooming, silence, and reclaiming power.

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