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May 26
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Seen, Safe, And Soothed (with Burke Atke...

Drew Boa
About this episode

In this episode, Burke Atkerson tells his story. You'll hear how he sexualized the need to be seen, safe, and soothed—and nearly burned down his marriage. In the ashes, Burke finally found the community that he didn't realize he needed. Fire Nights is his response to the loneliness epidemic plaguing men.

Burke Atkerson is the founder of Fire Nights and Men Fully Alive. He is an author, coach, and breathwork instructor—as well as a recovering addict, a failed missionary, and an undeserving husband and a grateful father of six.

Buy Burke's book, Fire Nights: Forging Brotherhood That Heals.

Join the movement of men building authentic brotherhood in their backyards at firenights.net.

Learn more and connect with Burke at menfullyalive.com.

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