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May 26
26m 52s

E378 | How to Silence Your Inner Critic ...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

This episode is for a very specific type of person. 

Those of you who are hard on yourself, and if you're being honest, it's to an unhealthy degree. The perfectionist who struggles to recognize their own accomplishments, who tears themselves apart over minor slip-ups, and maybe even finds it hard to fully celebrate the wins of others. Not because of jealousy, but because the voice in your head has been trained to fixate on what’s missing instead of what’s been earned.

Maybe you’re not wired this way all the time, but after a big achievement, you felt... nothing. Maybe even a little depressed that it didn’t feel like more. We know many of you in our audience fall into one of these camps—and this episode is for you.

Here’s a little premeditated tough love: at some point, it has to be good enough. 

So how do we move past this all-or-nothing mentality we’ll never win? How can we celebrate our accomplishments without dulling our edge?

In this episode, Brett breaks down:

  • The 70% Rule—it’s immeasurable value and how it can be applied in both creative work and business
  • How to celebrate milestones while preserving the lessons from when you fell flat on your face
  • Who drains your joy, how to cut them out, and the hard truth: you might be doing it to others too
  • Ways to be your own hype man without softening your edge
  • Practical tools for when you hate your own work—and how to get to the root of why that happens

During the episode, Brett opened up about the various challenges he’s faced while writing his new book. If you want early access to updates, release info, and behind-the-scenes content, follow along at artofcoaching.com/book.

Retreat. Reset. Recalibrate. RELOAD!

This September, we’re hosting a retreat in Phoenix, AZ—built for those who carry it all. Ten years in the making, this event is designed to give you tools to slow down, recalibrate, and breathe again.

We're teaming up with professionals like Taylor Somerville and Lauren Vestal to introduce breathwork, recovery strategies, and techniques to help you downregulate and bring some peace back into your day-to-day life. You’ll also get space to move, connect, and troubleshoot how to have the tough conversations you've been avoiding—so you can show up for yourself as much as you do for everyone else.

Stay tuned at artofcoaching.com/events and email us at info@artofcoaching.com for more details.

Executive Mentoring That Fits Your Life

Struggling with anxiety before a big presentation? Leading difficult meetings? Trying to figure out how to handle a staff issue, or even a challenge at home? One of our 15 coaches has been there and dealt with that.

This is real-world guidance, tailored to your needs, on your schedule. Nothing cookie-cutter about it.

Every leader needs a coach. The best ones know when to ask for help.

Learn more at artofcoaching.com/mentoring. We’d love to help.

Upcoming Live Events:

There’s never been a better time to invest in skills that don’t have a shelf life. Our live events are built to help you think, speak, and lead more effectively under pressure, in any environment. These aren’t lectures. They’re hands-on, challenging experiences with an immeasurable return on investment. We offer three different payment plans and want to meet you where you’re at. If you have questions or want help finding the best fit, reach out to us anytime at info@artofcoaching.com.

Brand Builder This one’s for the person trying to grow something real. Whether you’re turning your book into a business, scaling your podcast, or running a brick-and-mortar that needs a stronger foundation—we cover it all. Pricing, positioning, branding, managing your team, building out systems. You’ll walk away with clarity and a real plan.

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Referenced Resources:

Article: The Imperfectionist 

E208 | Robert Greene: Mastering Human Nature & Facing Your Flaws

Related Episode:

E259 | Understanding and Overcoming Perfectionism

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