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Aug 18
21m 44s

E390 | Subtle Strategies that Make You M...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

When most people think about persuasion, they go straight to education (“if they just understood, they’d agree”), inspiration (“let me tell you an inspiring story”), or force (“do this now”). 

But there’s a big difference between persuasion, influence, power, and warmth — and understanding that difference can change how you get things done. 

This episode, inspired by a fable I read to my son, breaks down why subtlety often beats force, how warmth can shift behavior faster than pressure, and what that means in real-world situations. 

Whether you’re a manager trying to get buy-in, a coach pushing for compliance, or anyone who needs to move people from point A to point B, you’ll get practical takeaways you can use immediately.

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