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Feb 2023
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The Simple Art Of Subtracting To Get Mor...

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About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover the science of subtraction with Leidy Klotz. Leidy studies the science of design, his research has appeared in both Nature and Science, and his book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, was ranked as one of the most influential titles in the fields of design and behavioral science.


As humans, we gravitate toward acquiring things and activities to add value to our lives, but many times we can add value to our lives by removing things from it—why is our biology working against us, how can you determine what to subtract from your life, and how do you get your family, friends, and coworkers on board?


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • How can you make your life more fulfilling by removing things from your life?
  • Why does our biology prime us to add things to our life even if those things don’t enrich our lives?


  • Reduce Distractions to Increase Fulfillment – 16:28
  • What questions can you ask to determine what you should remove from your life to improve your life?


  • What pushes you to add unnecessary things to your life – 31:53 
  • What are the forces around you that are always nudging you to add things to your life that end up unnecessarily complicating your life?


  • Getting people on board with the concept of subtraction – 44:40 
  • What can you say to people to convince them that removing things from their lives will improve their lives?


Many of us go through life without taking the time to analyze what brings value to our lives and what doesn’t. Our biology drives us to seek out things that we think will make us happy but often those things don’t actually bring long-term fulfillment. Consider evaluating what you have in your life and see if there are any areas where you could declutter your life for more contentment, or to free up time to focus on the things that do bring value to your life. When was the last time you took inventory of your life and considered ways you could simplify? 


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