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May 21
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How do I become someone people care about? Should I tell my roommate’s boyfriend that she is cheating on him? How do I meet people and start dating? What break-up remedies do you recommend? My boyfriend has a different aesthetic than mine, how do we decorate? How do I deal with the grief of losing a pet that is still alive? …Shan Boodram and John Green have answers.

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