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May 21
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201- I Don’t Know Who I Am: Using the En...

Carole Jean Whittington, Autistic Burnout Researcher at Whittington Well-Being
About this episode

What if understanding your burnout starts with understanding your why?

In this week’s episode of Beyond Chronic Burnout, Carole Jean Whittington shares how the Enneagram became a powerful guide for self-rediscovery during autistic burnout—and how it can help you or your clients finally make sense of your inner world.


Whether you’ve felt emotionally disconnected, chronically misunderstood, or simply unsure of who you are anymore... this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for reconnecting with your true self.


💬 In this episode, you’ll explore:

  • What the Enneagram really is—and why it works for autistic minds

  • How it supports those who experience alexithymia (difficulty identifying emotions)

  • Why self-understanding is key to burnout recovery

  • How to identify your Enneagram Type

  • Ways helping professionals can integrate Enneagram work with neuro-affirming care

✨ Plus: A gentle meditation, a downloadable Energy-Honoring Enneagram Assessment, journal prompts, and tips for translating these insights into both your personal healing and your professional practice.


🔗 Resources Mentioned:


  • The Energy-Honoring Enneagram Assessment (in this week’s issue of The Recharge)
    Living Unmasked book + bonus tools: whittingtonwellbeing.com

  • Subscriber bonus: Enneagram Overview 


  • 🧠 This episode is for you if:

    • You’re autistic and feel emotionally disconnected or unsure of who you are

    • You’re a therapist, clinician, or coach supporting neurodivergent women

    • You want a deeper, more compassionate lens to navigate burnout and healing

    🔔 Subscribe + turn on notifications so you never miss an episode of Beyond Chronic Burnout—where we explore what it really means to thrive as autistic women.


    🔗 Connect with Carole Jean Whittington: 


    How to get out of burnout - STEP 1: Take the Spicy Pepper Burnout Quiz and discover if you are in burnout or not, and if so, what’s your burnout level from a Poblano Pepper Level 1, where there’s just a bit of heat up to the Ghost Pepper Level 5 when “you’re so hot, you’re not.”  You’ll get the opportunity to join our free Step 2 Class after you take the quiz.

    Take the Spicy Pepper Quiz: https://energize.whittingtonwellbeing.com/products/courses/view/1155744 


    Subscribe to The Recharge Newsletter and receive weekly burnout recovery insights, tools for yourself or to use with your autistic clients, and learn about upcoming workshops at Whittington Well-Being.


    🔗 Subscribe to The Recharge: 

    https://energyuplevel.kit.com/becomeafan 


    🌿 Ready to reconnect with your authentic Self and finally step into your Comfort Zone? Get your copy of Living Unmasked: An Autistic Woman’s Guide to Get Into Your Comfort Zone—and start your journey out of burnout and into sustainable well-being.


    ✨ Your $9.99 digital + audio bundle includes the full book, exclusive bonus meditations, printable worksheets, and your personalized Roadmap to Energy Mastery.


    📘 Grab it here

    :https://energize.whittingtonwellbeing.com/products/courses/view/1182513 


    You don’t have to hustle your way to healing. Let’s unmask gently, together. 💛


    #AutisticBurnout #SelfDiscovery #AutisticWomen #WellBeing #SelfHelp

    #NeuroaffirmingCare #BurnoutRecovery #AutisticWomen #TraumaInformedPractice #Enneagram #HelpingProfessionals #ClinicalTools #BeyondChronicBurnout

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