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May 2025
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3 Keys to Becoming the Parent You Always...

Lewis Howes
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What if raising kids isn't about fixing them, but understanding your own emotional patterns first? In this powerful mashup episode, three experts transform how we think about family dynamics. Dr. Becky Kennedy reveals why making happiness the goal of childhood creates anxious adults, Scott Galloway shares how fatherhood at 42 shifted his priorities from status-seeking to finding unexpected contentment, and family therapist Jerry Wise explains how breaking free from your family's emotional trance is the true path to healing. This conversation exposes how parenting becomes our greatest opportunity for personal growth - not by healing through our children, but by facing the triggers they inevitably expose.

Dr. Becky’s book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be

Scott’s book The Algebra of Wealth: A Simple Formula for Financial Security

Scott’s book The Algebra of Happiness: Notes on the Pursuit of Success, Love, and Meaning

Scott’s book The Four: The Hidden DNA of Amazon, Apple, Facebook, and Google

Jerry Wise Relationship Systems on YouTube

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why trying to understand your child's bad behavior is the foundation for effectively changing it
  • How making happiness the goal of childhood creates anxious adults unable to handle uncomfortable emotions
  • The power of "connect before you correct" in creating resilient children who can regulate their emotions
  • Why parents unconsciously wish their children will heal their wounds but discover children actually trigger unresolved issues
  • How fatherhood shifts priorities from status-seeking to finding purpose beyond yourself
  • Why breaking your family's emotional "trance" is essential to becoming a healthy adult and parent
  • The three phrases every parent needs when their child experiences disappointment
  • How to recognize if you had narcissistic parents and the patterns you might be unconsciously repeating

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