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May 14
45m 50s

Working "Harder" Than Your Client

Jordan Pickell and Alison McCleary
About this episode

Has another therapist ever told you, “You shouldn’t work harder than the client”? In this episode, we talk about what people really mean when they use this phrase. We unpack how privilege, trauma, the relationship, theoretical orientation, and modality all shape what “effort” really looks like in the therapy room. 

What do we lose when we expect therapy to be equal effort? What does it mean to "work hard" in therapy anyway?

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Alison McCleary
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Jordan Pickell
www.jordanpickellcounselling.ca
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