Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵💫
In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more).
We’ll talk about:
- How overexplaining is ... Show More
Yesterday
Relationship Anxiety from 10 Down to a 1: How Vanessa Stopped Overanalyzing Her Partner
Have you ever overanalyzed the way your partner SNEEZED? 😭 Because this week's guest, Vanessa, HAS. And babe… she's not doing that anymore. 😂 Vanessa went from spiraling over missed calls, analyzing the difference between "okay" and "okay!", and being absolutely TERRIFIED to co ... Show More
14m 36s
Oct 27
Helpful Reminder if You Keep Thinking “What if” When You’re Triggered
In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller. Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing r ... Show More
16m 36s
Oct 2025
013- Stop Explaining Yourself to the Wrong People
Send us Fan MailThere’s a quiet kind of exhaustion that comes from constantly trying to make yourself understood by people who are committed to misunderstanding you. You explain, clarify, defend, and prove — not because you’re weak, but because you ache to be heard.In this episod ... Show More
31m 56s
Nov 2024
The One-Person Show Nobody Asked For
How often do you find yourself replaying a conversation, second-guessing every little thing you said? In this episode, we’re diving into that spiral of overthinking, breaking down why we get caught up in it and how to finally stop. We’ll cover ways to catch ourselves in the act, ... Show More
22m 11s
Nov 2023
143. Why do we replay conversations?
<p>Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down ... Show More
30m 10s
Jan 2023
54: How to set (and by extension, receive) boundaries
One of many reasons we may feel anxious in relationship: we're actually feeling resentful and not communicating our needs and boundaries at all, or effectively! In this episode, I break down what boundaries are as well as what they aren't, some perspective shifts for recovering p ... Show More
49m 9s