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Apr 2025
23m 7s

Why You Keep Overexplaining (and Still F...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫

In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more).

We’ll talk about:

- How overexplaining is really a nervous system response (not just “bad communication”)

- Why your anxious attachment thrives on overexplaining (and how to gently stop)

- The difference between clarifying vs. oversharing

- Simple, real-world tools to feel heard without feeling like you’re doing a TED Talk at your boyfriend 🚩

If you’re ready to stop feeling like you need a PowerPoint presentation to get your needs met, you’re in the right place. 😌✨

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