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Apr 2025
23m 7s

Why You Keep Overexplaining (and Still F...

bethathealinggirl
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Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫 In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more). We’ll talk about: - How overexplaining is ... Show More
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