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May 2025
9m 58s

132 - How To Stop Anger Before It Starts

Alastair Duhs
About this episode

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Sometimes, it takes just one angry outburst to hurt someone you love or to do unrepairable relationship damage. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into how to stop anger before it escalates.

Learn five simple strategies to stay calm and grounded when emotions run high. By utilising these strategies, you can prevent anger before it starts and protect your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

  • Just one angry moment can hurt someone you love and escalate small issues into big ones.
  • Recognising your Early Warning Signs of anger gives you more control over your reactions.
  • Taking a Time-Out can help de-escalate anger and is a sign of strength, not weakness.
  • Focusing on your breathing can calm your body during moments of rising anger, helping you reset.
  • Reframing situations allows you to interpret events differently and maintain your emotional control.
  • Thinking through the consequences of your anger can help you avoid regret and move toward desired outcomes.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

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