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May 9
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Episode 395: Why Women Pursue Orgasm Les...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

In heterosexual relationships, women don’t orgasm as frequently or consistently as men. So why is that? As we’ll explore in today’s show, it’s because there’s an “orgasm pursuit gap.” Sexual scripts lead women to pursue their own orgasms less than men, and to perceive less support from their partners for their own pleasure.

My guest is Carly Wolfer, a sex researcher, relationship scientist, and health educator whose work explores how to create more equitable and pleasurable sexual experiences. She’s currently working on her Ph.D. in Social Psychology at The CUNY Graduate Center.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • What’s wrong with the current way we think about the orgasm gap?
  • Why do women pursue their own orgasms less than men?
  • What does healthy pursuit of orgasm look like?
  • How can you get your partner to support your pleasure?
  • How do we close the orgasm gap?

You can connect with Carly on LinkedIn to follow her updates.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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