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May 7
47m 52s

BPD and Self-Sabotage: Are You Standing ...

The BPD Bunch
About this episode

In this candid episode, Xannie, Carys, André and Katja discuss the struggle of self-sabotage faced by many living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The Bunch share their personal stories and experiences, exploring the emotional turmoil that leads to self-destructive behaviors. Discover how these patterns impact relationships, careers, and self-worth.

If you or someone you care about is navigating the complexities of BPD, this episode is a must-watch. Hit that subscribe button for more insights and support in your journey toward healing!Friday we’ll be back to talk about how we've learned to recognize self-sabotaging behavior. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you can join us as we unravel these captivating stories!

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Skills mentioned in the episode:

STOP Skill:

S - Stop: Pause and take a moment to halt whatever you’re doing. This helps prevent impulsive reactions and gives you time to think.

T - Take a Step Back: Move away from the situation physically or mentally. This helps you create space to gain perspective and calm your emotions.

O - Observe: Notice what’s happening around you and within you. Pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations without judgment.

P - Proceed Mindfully: After taking a moment, decide how to respond in a thoughtful way. Use the information you gathered to make a choice that aligns with your goals and values.


ABC PLEASES:

A - Accumulate Positive Experiences: Engage in activities that bring you joy or satisfaction. Look for small moments of happiness throughout your day.

B - Build Mastery: Focus on developing skills or completing tasks that enhance your confidence. Achieving small goals can boost your self-esteem.

C - Cope Ahead: Prepare for future challenges by thinking through potential situations and how you can handle them effectively. Planning ahead can reduce anxiety.


P/L - Physical ILlness: Take care of your physical health by attending to any medical issues or illnesses. This helps ensure your body is in good shape to support your emotional health.

E - Eating: Maintain a balanced diet and ensure you’re getting enough nutrition. Proper eating habits can positively influence your mood and energy levels.

A - Avoid Mood-Altering Substances: Stay away from drugs, alcohol, and other substances that can negatively impact your mood or emotional stability.

S - Sleep: Prioritize getting enough restful sleep. Good sleep hygiene is crucial for emotional regulation and overall well-being.

E - Exercise: Engage in regular physical activity. Exercise can help reduce stress and improve your mood.

S - Screen Time: Be mindful of your exposure to screens and how it affects you

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About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!

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Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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