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May 2025
35m 23s

What to Do When Your Partner Shuts Down

Jillian Turecki | QCODE
About this episode
As part of Mental Health Awareness Month, this episode explores one of the most destabilizing relationship dynamics: when a partner shuts down during conflict. Jillian coaches a listener through the emotional toll of being avoided and unpacks how this behavior impacts your mental health, sense of safety, and self-worth. With guidance on emotional regulation, ... Show More
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