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May 2025
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From Stuck to Empowered: Overcoming Anal...

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About this episode

In today’s episode of The Coachable Podcast, I dive into the topic of indecision and the paralyzing effect that overthinking can have on our lives. Whether you're facing a major life decision or even the small, everyday choices, overthinking can leave you feeling stuck and disconnected from your intuition. But the truth is, clarity comes when we stop trying to control every outcome and start listening to our bodies.

I explore the root causes of indecision, the deep conditioning we experience from childhood, and how this manifests as a fear of making the wrong choice. I also discuss how our nervous systems play a huge role in decision-making and why you can’t think clearly when your body is in a state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.

You’ll learn how to move from mental loops of overthinking to having embodied clarity, how to regulate your nervous system to make clear, empowered decisions, and why commitment is the key to unlocking your full potential.

If you’ve ever been stuck in analysis paralysis, second-guessed yourself, or over-researched a decision to the point of exhaustion, this episode is for you. Let’s dive into how you can reclaim your decision-making power and finally move forward in your life with confidence and clarity!

 

Key Takeaways:

The Root of Indecision: How childhood conditioning and fear of making mistakes can create decision paralysis in adulthood.

Nervous System Regulation: Why overthinking is more than a mental issue – it’s deeply tied to your nervous system’s response to stress and fear.

Clarity Through Commitment: How clarity is a byproduct of committing to a decision and trusting your inner knowing.

Practical Steps to Overcome Overthinking: Learn how to regulate your body, slow down, and shift from fear-driven decision-making to self-leadership.

Empowered Decision-Making: Why making decisions from a regulated state of safety leads to alignment with your highest self.

Timestamps:
[00:00] - Introduction: Breaking down the roots of indecision
[06:15] - How childhood conditioning affects our decision-making today
[10:45] - The role of the nervous system in analysis paralysis
[15:30] - Why clarity comes after commitment and how to trust your body
[20:45] - The biology of overthinking: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
[26:00] - Practical steps to regulate your nervous system and make empowered choices
[30:45] - Reframing limiting beliefs around decision-making
[36:00] - The power of self-trust and how to lead yourself to clarity
[40:00] - Closing thoughts and actionable steps for moving forward

Resources Mentioned:

Anywhere Clinic: A mental health resource that has been a game-changer for me. Visit Anywhere Clinic to learn more about virtual psychiatric care, ketamine therapy, and emotional mastery.

Call to Action:
If you’re tired of being stuck in indecision and want to start making aligned, confident choices, reach out to me! DM me the word “decide” on Instagram and let’s talk about how we can work together in my high-performance leadership coaching program.

Connect with Tori:

Instagram: @thetorigordon

Podcast: The Coachable Podcast

Personal Website: Tori Gordon

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If this episode resonated with you, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or take a screenshot and tag me on Instagram. Let me know what you took away from this episode! I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway and how you plan to step into your personal power and start making decisions from a place of alignment. ✨


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