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Apr 2025
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Every Avoidant Secretly Looks for THESE ...

Thais Gibson | YAP Media
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Why do avoidants seem hesitant to commit—even when things are going well?


In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais reveals the three hidden qualities every dismissive avoidant looks for before committing to a long-term relationship or deep friendship. These traits aren’t always spoken aloud, but they quietly determine whether the relationship feels safe and sustainable.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:


✔️ Why emotional acceptance is essential to avoidants (and how criticism shuts them down)

✔️ The importance of emotional stability—and how avoidants subtly test for it

✔️ How a strong sense of autonomy and independence is a non-negotiable for commitment

✔️ What not to do if you want to build trust with an avoidant partner

✔️ How to communicate your needs while honoring theirs

✔️ Why understanding these three traits can transform your relationship dynamic


If you’ve ever felt confused by an avoidant partner’s pullback or mixed signals, this episode gives you the roadmap to understanding their core needs—and deciding if you're aligned for the long haul.


Meet Your Host:

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and expert in reprogramming subconscious patterns. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities like CBT, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional lives.


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