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Apr 2025
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Relationship Expert: How To Date To Find...

Lewis Howes
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What if the only destination for dating is marriage? Senior pastor Stephen Chandler unpacks his transformative "Relationship Roadmap" approach, challenging our modern dating culture with refreshing honesty. Stephen shares why intentionality is the missing ingredient in most failed relationships. Through vulnerable stories of his own marriage journey — from being the broke pastor who married a financially stable nurse, to learning the hard way about how his achievement-driven mindset nearly damaged his marriage — Stephen reveals why the two decisions that will define your life are what you do with God and who you choose to spend your life with. This eye-opening conversation delivers practical wisdom for anyone seeking to build a relationship that doesn't just survive but becomes the foundation for true greatness in every area of life.

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In this episode you will learn:

  • Why dating without marriage as your destination creates detours that delay your path to greatness and damages your heart along the way
  • How physical intimacy clouds judgment and prevents you from recognizing relationship red flags before it's too late
  • The critical difference between yellow and red flags in dating, and why your trusted community's opinion of your partner matters more than your own
  • Why money problems aren't necessarily relationship dealbreakers, but a partner's unwillingness to grow absolutely is
  • How to create the proper balance between pursuing ambitious goals and making meaningful memories in your relationship

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