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Mar 2024
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The Relationship Therapist: "This Statis...

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About this episode

Relationships and romance aren't easy, but are you making it harder than it needs to be?


Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and a bestselling author, she is also the co-host of the ‘Dear Therapists’ podcast. Her New York Times bestselling books include, ‘Maybe You Should Talk to Someone’ and ‘Mr Good Enough’.


In this conversation Lori and Steven discuss topics such as, why men should always pay for the date, the best age according to statistics to get married, what women really want in a man, and the simple trick to show what is missing in your relationship.


(00:00) Intro

(01:08) How to Live the Life You Want

(04:06) Lack of Human Connections Leads to Relationship Pressure

(05:21) Why the Majority Aren't Satisfied with Their Relationships

(07:01) The Need to Be Understood

(08:47) Why Men Struggle More Opening Up in the Relationship

(15:34) Setting Unreal Expectations When Looking for a Partner

(18:40) We're Too Picky on Dating Apps

(23:57) High Expectations, Can They Be Lowered?

(27:04) Gender Differences in Dating

(32:44) The Type of People That Seek Bad Partners

(34:11) How to Help Those People

(35:49) Financial Differences in Dating

(41:53) People Are Choosing Not to Have Kids and Get Married

(48:02) What Happens When a Woman Earns More in the Relationship

(50:08) The Big Debate on a First Date

(55:35) Red Flags in First Dates

(58:51) The Age You Marry Is Linked to Divorce Risk

(01:02:32) You Need to Learn to Unknow Yourself

(01:04:35) The Impact of Seeking Approval

(01:11:20) When Your Friends Sabotage You When You Try to Change

(01:19:46) Do Women Express More Emotion Than Men?

(01:21:38) Do Our Dreams Have True Meanings?

(01:24:08) The Safety of Self-Compassion

(01:25:55) The Opposite of Depression Isn't Happiness

(01:28:46) The Grief of Heartbreak and How to Recover

(01:36:53) How to Help Someone Going Through Heartbreak

(01:44:02) Last Guest Question


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