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Mar 2025
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a guy’s perspective on dating & long-ter...

sarah pan
About this episode

we're focusing on the male perspective today as our co-host james takes the stage to share his experience navigating love, relationships, dating, and the big ol' question of long term commitment. today he answers some hard hitting questions like his ideal type, why he never dated before sarah and how he overcame his fear of commitment ~ grab your drinks and strap in because today's episode is a juicy one ~


today's specialty drink on the menu: hana makgeolli


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(00:00:00) preview & intro

(00:04:36) the male perspective

(00:05:24) james' dating history & backstory

(00:12:22) what was your ideal type?

(00:14:28) love & dating in college

(00:18:53) a dating word of advice

(00:25:37) the fear of commitment

(00:32:32) our big *breakup*

(00:37:45) being vulnerabilities & dating insecurities

(00:40:46) dating & building confidence

(00:44:12) parting words of wisdom

(00:46:12) the shame of being a bad partner (in the past)

(00:48:46) MARRIAGE DISCLAIMER

(00:51:14) bloopers

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