In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and ... Show More
Aug 19
189. How to Get Closer Without Doing ALL the Emotional Labor (10 Tips)
In this episode, I’m breaking down 10 practical, low-pressure ways to build emotional closeness that feel fun, natural, and mutual so you’re not stuck carrying all the weight of “going deep.” I’ll show you how to connect through shared experiences, create emotional safety, and bu ... Show More
44m 28s
Aug 15
Comparing Notes Pt 1: The First 3 Months of a New Relationship w/ Ali Jackson
Welcome to part 1 of Comparing Notes, a new mini series I'm doing with my friend, Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height! This entire series will cover the different stages of a new relationship: what to expect, what to focus on and how to get through it with grace. In this episode, w ... Show More
1h 10m
Aug 12
188. 7 Tips For Dating Multiple People In The Early Stages (throwback)
Maybe you’ve heard the advice to “date multiple people,” but you’re not sure how it actually works, if it’s even possible for you, or why you’d want to try it. In this episode, I’m sharing seven tips on how to approach dating multiple people before getting into a relationship. Mu ... Show More
31m 48s
May 26
(Matt Monday): How to Make Them CHASE YOU Without Playing Games
The rules of modern dating can feel so confusing. You don’t know how much texting is too much, how to make the first move, or whether to keep trying if their interest is hot and cold. In this week’s video, I sat down with bestselling author Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast t ... Show More
20m 4s
Mar 2025
(Rewind): How to Make Them CHASE YOU Without “Playing It Cool”
We’ve all been told that we should never come on too strong, and that playing it cool is the best way to get someone interested. But how much interest is the right amount to show in the early days of dating? If we show too much interest, we worry we’ll lose all our “power,” but i ... Show More
18m 40s
Mar 2025
#219 Logan Ury: The Dating Myths You Need to Stop Believing
Most people date the wrong way. They chase the spark, mistake attraction for compatibility, and expect their partners to read their minds. Then they wonder why relationships don’t last. Logan Ury thinks about dating differently. As the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, s ... Show More
2h 12m
Sep 2024
Why Chase Men Like They’re The Prize? - On Cheating, Being a 'Pick Me' & Dating Lessons ft. Lisa Gilmore
EP97: When it comes to dating, we’ve seen it all—and now we’re ready to spill. In this episode, Lisa and I are unpacking the wild lessons we’ve learned from our dating adventures. We’re diving into the non-negotiables we swear by, the red flags we’ll never ignore again, and why t ... Show More
47m 37s