You are not a target. Not a punching bag. Not the release valve for someone else’s frustration.
In the middle of the book tour whirlwind, I’m reflecting on a powerful review someone left for The Next Conversation and diving into the first and most foundational rule of the book: say it with control. I’ll walk you through a mindset shift that’s helped thousan ... Show More
Oct 7
Being Nice Won’t Save You in Difficult Conversations
Being nice won’t save you — especially in conflict. Too often, we think if we’re agreeable enough, people will treat us better or listen more. But that’s not how it works. In this episode, I talk about why “nice” people often get steamrolled in difficult conversations, the differ ... Show More
21m 18s
Sep 30
STOP Trying to Be Calm. This Is How You Actually Handle Emotional People
Being told to “calm down” never actually makes you calmer. In this episode, I unpack what “calm” really means in conversation—and why it often backfires. Instead of aiming for a blank-slate calm, I’ll show you how to create a grounded connection—a way to stay present, regulate yo ... Show More
14m 50s
Sep 23
What They Really Mean When They Belittle You
A belittling comment is never about you—it’s about them. In this episode, I break down why people use belittling remarks as a grab for dominance, how to decode the real intent behind their words, and why it’s usually just a projection of their own insecurity. You’ll learn the exa ... Show More
15m 53s
Feb 2025
How To Handle Difficult People & Take Back Your Peace and Power
Today, you are getting research-backed strategies for handling difficult people. In this episode, you will dive deep into how to respond to disrespect, gaslighting, and exactly what to say when someone tries to brush off their behavior with, “I was just joking.” You and Mel are b ... Show More
50m 21s
Sep 2024
how to detach (let go & feel free)
Detachment doesn't mean coldness and complete emotional passiveness. Rather, it's a tool for healing, relinquishing control and moving forward. If you are in a place in your life where you feel stuck, you're holding on so tightly when really deep down you know you need to let go ... Show More
20m 44s
Jan 2025
S2 EP2 | Managing Stress- Let Them Stress You Out | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins | The Messy Podcast
Welcome to Season 2, Episode 2 of The Messy Podcast!
In this episode, we dive into The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, a powerful tool for managing stress and reclaiming your energy. While you can’t control others' actions, you absolutely control how you respond to them. This ... Show More
14m 32s
Sep 2024
#835 - 2.5M Q&A - Naval Ravikant, Quitting Alcohol & Having Kids
I hit 2.5 million Subscribers on YouTube!!To celebrate, I asked for questions from YouTube, Twitter and Instagram, so here’s another 90 minutes of me trying to answer as many as possible. Expect to learn who I’m thinking of bringing on as guests on the left and right, how to lear ... Show More
1h 20m
Jun 2025
How the Right Clients Find YOU (It's not what you think) - With Jodie Cook | Episode 357
We want to hear from you. If you're open to a quick chat with our producer or any of the other options, it only takes a few seconds to sign up: https://forms.gle/Enzzpq5FCVQKbHV9A In this episode, Chris sits down once again with Jodie Cook—entrepreneur, writer, and powerlifter—fo ... Show More
43m 58s
Aug 21
275. How to Advocate for Yourself When Others Don’t Understand You
Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In thi ... Show More
35m 3s
Jan 2025
#896 - 3.25M Q&A - Marriage Plans, Beautiful Women & Chris Bumstead
I hit 3.25 million Subscribers on YouTube!!To celebrate, I asked for questions from YouTube, Twitter and Instagram, so here’s another 90ish minutes of me trying to answer as many as possible.Expect to learn my thoughts on the Fin vs The Internet episode, what my favorite band I’m ... Show More
1h 44m
Mar 2025
#909 - Charles Duhigg - The Secret Habits Of Supercommunicators
Charles Duhigg is a journalist, speaker, and author.
Effective communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. While some excel at it naturally, others struggle to express themselves and often get misunderstood. So, what are the best tips to become a master communicat ... Show More
1h 13m