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Mar 2025
32m 16s

E370 | How to Hash It Out and Get Rid of...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

You feel it, right? That tension thick enough to slice, the elephant in the room no one dares mention. But sooner or later, it has to be dealt with.

Most people think resolving conflict demands complex processes. In reality, the solution usually boils down to simply hashing it out. Yet, when friction arises, we often overcomplicate things or avoid them altogether, escalating drama.

It's time to step up and initiate tough conversations. Brace yourself. Some people will resist. Some simply lack the emotional tools to process these interactions. Others you’ll never fully reconcile with, but we can NEVER afford to be escapists, personally or professionally. Even when doing the right thing doesn’t guarantee success, clear communication and accountability are essential.

Today's episode hits like the perfect song for the moment. Right on time, and rhythm on point. This is the sit-down talk, crucial and overdue, that we, and our society as a whole, needs to hear.

Tune in as Brett dives into these key insights, breaking down how they relate directly to his experiences, and yours:

  • Navigate uncomfortable first steps with proven scripts.
  • Anticipate resistance and pivot when faced with avoidance.
  • Utilize mediation and lateral tactics when standard approaches stall.
  • Detach from emotional reactions, document clearly, and protect yourself
  • The BALM framework for clear and confident communication in the worst situations

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