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Mar 2025
59m 42s

The Psychological Tactics Bullies Use — ...

Kwame Christian Esq., M.A.
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In this episode of "Negotiate Anything," host Kwame Christian sits down with Lucia Kanter St. Amour to discuss the complex dynamics of negotiating with bullies. Lucia, an expert in negotiation and mediation, shares her personal experiences and insights on handling bullying, drawing from her new book "For the Forces of Good: The Superpower of Everyday Negotiation." Through engaging storytelling and practical advice, the episode explores Lucia's approach to negotiation, emphasizing the importance of building coalitions, understanding emotional dynamics, and strategizing effectively against high-conflict personalities. Using real-life examples, they delve into the societal roots of bullying, offering listeners valuable tools to manage these difficult conversations.

What will be covered:

  • Lucia's personal experiences with bullies and how they shaped her negotiation strategies.
  • The societal roots of bullying and its prevalence in adult interactions.
  • Practical negotiation techniques when facing bullies, including building rapport and understanding emotional dynamics.

What listeners will learn:

  • How to identify and respond to bullies using effective negotiation techniques.
  • The importance of coalition-building and having allies when negotiating with difficult personalities.
  • Strategies to maintain composure and protect oneself in high-pressure negotiation scenarios.

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