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Mar 2025
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Trauma Makes You Prone to Conflict: Here...

Anna Runkle
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Having more than your share of conflict with other people is a common adult symptom of growing up with neglect and abuse. Fighting, arguing, and falling out with people can feel normal when your nervous system is always dysregulated. It can feel like the world is doing this to you. But if it keeps happening, the common factor may be you, and the good news is, you can heal this trauma-driven behavior. In this video I teach why people with CPTSD are so prone to conflict, and what you can do to "cool down" a conversation that's getting heated. I'll also show you how to repair the damage when relationships are damaged, with step by step instructions on the right way to make an apology.

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