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Mar 2025
20m 28s

Ep. 282 - Your ex isn’t holding you back...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

In this eye-opening episode, Dorothy challenges you to confront what’s actually holding you back long after you've "healed" from your breakup. Discover why so many people who are "over their ex" still find themselves recreating similar patterns and limitations in their new life. Learn the three critical mindset shifts that shatter this and allow you to quantum leap into the extraordinary life you deserve. If you've done all the right healing work but still don't wake up feeling like you've won the lottery every day, this episode will transform how you view your potential and what's truly possible for your post-breakup evolution.

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