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Feb 2025
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Episode 375: What’s Your Erotic Persona?

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

How would you describe your personality in the bedroom? What do you like to do sexually? What do you need from your partners? What turns you on? In today’s show, we’re going to explore erotic personas. New research based on a survey of more than 100,000 adults sheds light on the 4 main types of erotic personas that exist.

My guest is Nicholas Velotta, a PhD student at the University of Washington who researches intimate relationships and sex. He is also the head of research at the couple’s wellness platform, Arya. You can find him online at mindonlove.com.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • How is an “erotic persona” similar to or different from a love language?
  • What are the main characteristics of each erotic persona?
  • Is it possible to have more than one erotic persona? Can our persona change over time?
  • Why do most people end up in relationships with partners who have different erotic personas?
  • How do you maintain sexual compatibility when you and your partner have different erotic profiles?

You can check out Nicholas’ website to learn more about his work.

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