In this episode, we tackle the challenging yet crucial topic of reintegrating sex into a marriage after betrayal. Rebecca Vander Meer and Traci Wright, two Pure Desire Clinicians, share why this is such a struggle for many couples and the common mistakes that can hinder progress. From rushing the process to overlooking emotional intimacy, we explore what cou ... Show More
Mar 10
453 - The Danger of Controlling Our Life by Controlling Other People
In this episode, Debby Flanagan dives into a common but often overlooked challenge in recovery: trying to control life by controlling other people. We explore how this pattern can undermine relationships, fuel relapse, and distract from personal growth. Debby outlines telltale si ... Show More
1h 4m
Mar 3
452 - Not Taking Full Responsibility for Wounding Those We Love
In this episode, we explore what it truly means to take full responsibility for the damage caused by addiction—and why minimizing, deflecting, or excusing that harm often keeps relapse close at hand. Joined by Eileen Fagan, we identify subtle signs of incomplete ownership, from d ... Show More
1h 1m
Sep 2023
How to Supercharge the Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage
<p>In today's episode, we explore communication, understanding your partner, and fostering mutual spiritual, physical, sexual, and recreational intimacy. It's not just about theory, but it's packed with practical steps including incoorporating daily connections int ... Show More
19m 14s
Aug 2025
How to Rebuild Intimacy and Heal Relationships After Betrayal, with Sam Tielemans
<p>In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I'm joined once again by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Sam Tielemans, who has dedicated over 15 years to helping men break free from porn addiction and rebuild emotional intimacy. We delve into practical strategies for cre ... Show More
52m 39s