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Feb 2025
30m 59s

E363 | How to Guide Someone Who's Stuck ...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

We’ve all been there. Stuck, unmotivated, and unsure of what to do or where to go next. And just as we’ve struggled, we’ve also had to help others who can’t seem to move forward. Whether you’re a leader, manager, mentor, or just someone who wants to be more effective in tough conversations, knowing how to cut through resistance is a critical skill.

People don’t just fear failure, they fear success. Staying stuck, or just refusing to advance, feels safer than the prospect of higher expectations and the weight of added responsibility. 

People are complicated, and it’s not as simple as offering advice or motivation. Different personalities bring different sources of resistance, and pushing too hard, or in the wrong way, can backfire.

So how do you actually help? How do you guide someone toward action without overwhelming them? In this episode, we break down the principles of managing these interactions so you can help them get out of their own way without getting stuck yourself.

In this practical episode, Brett covers: 

  • How to distill and discern why they feel stuck
  • Scripts for open-ended questions that foster agency and self-discovery
  • A framework for building a plan focused on securing the small wins first
  • Tools to build and sustain momentum–and when to check in
  • Why the victim mindset is so destructive and how to set boundaries to protect yourself

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Best of all, you’ll leave with proven tools and strategies to continue improving long after the event, so you’re not just better for a weekend, but for years to come.

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Referenced & Related Episodes:

E362: How To Quit Being a People Pleaser

E259: Understanding and Overcoming Perfectionism

E344: Tips For “Balancing” Work and Family Life

E269: How To Ask Better Questions

E353: What To Do If You Feel Like You’re Stagnating

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