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Jan 2025
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107. Not For Sharing a Bed + Let's Figur...

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Shall we start things off with a complaint? The answer is always yes. Jess and Caroline are really annoyed by the lack of good lamps in the world, which leads them to discuss finding their personal interior design style, sharing a space with another person, and even testing out what it’s like to sleep in a different bed than your partner.

Then for the age-old question: how do you let your partner know when you need alone time, especially in a way that doesn’t make them feel like they’re the reason? J and C talk figuring out the WHY of feeling depleted, witnessing someone else’s formative moments, and how NPCs have infiltrated real life. We all have to make our way through this game of life somehow…


This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠@abinewhouse⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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