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Jan 2025
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(Rewind): They’re "Not Sure" They Can Co...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
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"I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with you right now. . .”  

Nobody wants to hear these words.  

Especially when it’s coming from someone you genuinely care about.  

Someone you’ve invested time and energy in. . . and someone you feel could be the right person for you in the long term.  

It leaves you wishing they could just get over their indecision...  

If that sounds familiar, I have a simple solution:  

Because there IS a right way and a wrong way to handle this situation...  

The wrong way is to try and convince them of all the reasons you’re a great fit (even if every reason is true). This can accidentally push them further away. . .

The right way to handle this situation is to meet their confusion with love and kindness, while also standing strong and respecting yourself.  

(Here’s the surprising part: this is actually an incredible opportunity to show your value and remind them of what they risk losing.)  

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