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In this episode, we dive into a struggle many of us face without even realizing it—comparing our pain to others. Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I shouldn’t feel this way; others have it worse”? If so, you’re not alone. In this conversation, we’ll uncover how this mindset can invalidate our experiences, explore what God says about honoring our pain, and share practical, grace-filled ways to embrace healing. 

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.
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