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Feb 2024
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43. How to build chemistry on dates (and...

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We need to stop chasing sparks in dating! Just because you don't feel a spark does not mean that connection is doomed. In this episode, I talk about what the spark is and what it isn't, and why we feel attracted to some people and not others. I focus heavily on tips for building chemistry in early dating, but with the caveat that chemistry alone can't carry ... Show More
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