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Jan 2025
26m 23s

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting

Albiona Rakipi
About this episode

Happy 2025! The past year has been really transformative for me personally and professionally and I’m excited for what this new year might bring. I want to thank all of you who take the time to listen to my podcast, read my Substack, or even watch a video clip on TikTok. It’s really affirming to know I’m reaching all of you in some way. 

A few updates for 2025 that I’m excited to share with you:

  • New model for one-on-one coaching: I’m moving to a 12-week model, where you get 12 weekly calls with me. You’ll have me create scripts and plans to use in your home and answer questions as they arise. Only 1 spot is available for January!
  • Group coaching is returning in February! This more affordable option offers the added benefit of gaining support from others in your situation.
  • I’m launching a membership! I’ve been working on a membership and I want to make it as interactive as possible. It will be a hybrid of courses and live video calls. Stay tuned for more information! 

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting

When we adopt a martyr parent mindframe, it doesn’t benefit your children in the way you think it does.

We pride ourselves on being really busy, but when we burn out, what happens to your family? 

A Process to Help Interparent Yourself

  • Parenting is a process full of wisdom and transformation that we can apply to moments in our adult lives like loss and growth. 
  • Using PARR to help us understand what our triggers are and cause us to have big reactions towards our kids. 
  • There’s always something we can change instead of resigning to being too tired or too busy while having a reactionary response. 
  • The five pillars of parenting yourself: master pausing, practice stillness, honoring simplicity, honoring change, trusting your intuition.

Create an Environment Conducive to Connection

  • Showing our kids we are the ones in control of our lives and priorities. 
  • There are moments when we can create meaningful connections with our kids but we need to be present and intentional about it. 
  • It’s healthy for kids to spend time alone, and being mindful of the time we spend with them makes it more impactful. 

Honoring Your Ability to Process Complex Emotions

  • It’s likely many of us learned to suppress or bypass complex emotions due to our upbringing. 
  • Our discomfort when our own kids are having a complex emotion is something very foreign to us so we need to learn how to sit with it instead of trying to change or cover it up. 
  • In moments of dysregulation you can say “I am safe and so are they.” 

Resources: 

Sign up for a FREE 20 minute discovery call to see if 1:1 coaching is right for you: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-discovery-call-ck6qf

The Three Pillars to Connected Parenting article: https://albiona.substack.com/p/the-3-pillars-to-connected-parenting?r=dan8y

The Busyness Trap article: https://albiona.substack.com/p/spotting-the-busyness-trap

Self Regulation Workshop Free Download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parents

PARR Workshop Free Download: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-parr-workshop-download

Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ 

I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/

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