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Sexual fantasy can play a large role in a relationship and individual sexuality. However, there's often a fair amount of shame around sexuality and sexual fantasies. Listen to today's show to learn how to explore your own fantasies and share them with your partner. You just might learn a few fun new things about each other and perhaps your fantasy will turn ... Show More
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