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Jan 2025
38m 42s

E359 | Why You Need to Own Your Sh** to ...

Brett Bartholomew
About this episode

New year, new you, right? 

Many of us set resolutions and goals this time of year, which is a great way to start fresh. But let’s be honest: flipping the calendar doesn’t magically fix everything in our lives.

If we want to truly step up as leaders, spouses, parents, or high achievers, we need to confront the uncomfortable “stuff” we’ve been avoiding. It’s about unpacking the baggage we’ve been dragging along, facing it head-on, and making the changes that not only improve our lives but also ripple out to everyone around us.

It’s not easy. In fact, it might be harder than losing that last 15 pounds or finally contributing more to your retirement—but that’s why you’re here. So let’s get to work.

In today’s episode, Brett discusses:

  • Carl Jung’s concept of The Shadow and how it can help you become a better leader
  • The true definition of culture and how to forge a resilient group identity
  • Strategies to recognize and address your internal struggles
  • The damage caused when avoided baggage “leaks” out onto our loved ones

Today’s episode touched on unpacking your inner baggage—the rationalizations, intellectualizing, and excuses that hold you back. If you’re ready to take action, there’s no better place to work on yourself than at one of our live workshops.

Join us at The Apprenticeship in New Jersey this March, where we’ll dive into human behavior, why we act the way we do, and how to overcome the obstacles we create for ourselves. Through interactive activities like improv and practical exercises, you’ll walk away with tools to lead more effectively—both personally and professionally.

Check out all of our 2025 dates at artofcoaching.com/events. Don’t wait, spaces fill fast!

Ready to take action and improve your professional life?

The Coalition is a mentoring group for anyone who’s serious about growth, without the fluff or pretension of a typical “mastermind.” Whether you’re dreaming of leaving the corporate grind to start your own small business, running a business but ready to scale to the next level, or simply looking to make bold moves in your career, this group is for you.

With two recorded Zoom calls a month, we provide a private, welcoming environment where you’ll gain clarity, accountability, and a trusted community that pushes you to take real, meaningful action. This isn’t just another networking group, it’s a place to focus on what matters and actually get things done.

Applications for the next round starting in 2025 are open now. Apply at artofcoaching.com/coalition.

If you want to uncover what truly drives you—and what moves others—take our FREE Drives Quiz at artofcoaching.com/whatdrivesyou. Unlike traditional tools like DISC or Myers-Briggs, our algorithm is designed to dig deeper, call out any BS, and even flag potential lies or aspirational answers to give you honest, actionable insights.

Learn about yourself, uncover your blind spots, and start influencing more effectively today!

Related Episodes:

E340 | Framework Bandwagons & The Illusion of Competence

E344 | Tips For ‘Balancing’ Work And Family Life

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