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Dec 2024
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Date them until you hate them and why lo...

Anna Kai
About this episode

If it’s not love at first sight…try again.


Keywords: dating, society, culture, relationships, love lessons, dating advice, toxic relationships, overcoming failure, single at the holidays, date yourself, being behind, love and money


With decades of professional matchmaking wisdom, Netflix-star Aleeza Ben Shalom sits down and answers my questions on whether soulmates exist, why it doesn’t have to be love at first sight in order for it to be everlasting love, and whether there is someone out there for everyone. 


What first started out as a hobby has now turned into a full-fledged business for Aleeza, who has focused on pairing marriage-minded individuals since 2007 first in the U.S. She offers her advice on how couples should handle conversations around money, religion, and how to handle awkward questions from family members at the holidays.


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